Updated: Dec 4, 2020
What Do Women Want?
I remember the first time I saw this movie...a man gets some strange superpower and is finally able to hear the thoughts of a woman and understand what she wants and tries to use it against her, only to end up falling for her. The AUDACITY!!! Total transparency, I'm not really sure why I even thought about this movie, but I'm glad I did. It's like a cult classic. The fact that women need a man to translate their thoughts in order to make sure we are being fulfilled, or for any other reason is something to talk about. That's just treachery. So to have a little fun, I have decided to take a few lines and dedicate an ode to us...WOMEN. Only we can tell you what we want. So, here I go...answering questions that no one and I mean no one at all has even asked, and answering it through the lens of some of the most legendary and iconic women I know.
What are 3 things a woman really wants?
Respect - Yep, the same respect that the incomparable Aretha Franklin was talking about. It's the same respect that women are demanding today. We'll have our first female Vice President of the United States. It's historical and monumental. But because she's part black and all woman, people still want to find a way to make her presence and this moment illegitimate. Politics aside, I can relate to reaching a personal and important milestone, being so proud of myself for reaching a goal, only to have someone downplay its significance or offer me an underwhelming response. While I don't look for anyone to hype me up, I would appreciate some respect. Like, put some RESPECT on my accomplishments. Not, "you did well for a woman", but rather, "you did well". PERIOD.
To be heard - Shout out to Helen Reddy and her famous song I Am Woman. Her opening lyrics, "I am woman, hear me roar, with numbers too great to ignore..." She's saying we, women deserve because we've earned the right to be heard and valued. Our contributions are too great, our numbers are too great to ignore. From medicine and science, to politics and education...don't act like we weren't there at the forefront in the middle and bringing in the rear. Women aren't looking for any handouts, but definitely fairness. Acknowledge our contributions, and don't try to diminish them. Recognize our voices, our strengths and our power. Being heard is more than having a seat at the proverbial "table". Being heard is having the opportunity to build our own buildings, and fill it up with tables that we designed ourselves.
To be paid - I'll give this one to Mrs. Beyonce Giselle Knowles Carter. Remember what she said in Run The World (Girls)? I hear this song and, I don't know about anyone else, I immediately hear an anthem about pay equality. Women don't want the impossible. With everything women do today, this should be the last thing that we would want because honestly, equal pay for women should be an obvious response. Normalize paying us what we deserve. Match our credentials, our ethic, our drive, our experience, our accomplishments up against any suitable competitor, and watch us exceed expectations. It's not a one-time occurrence, women constantly make exceptional seem regular, making you feel like you can do it with the same level of finesse. We show up sick, outnumbered, limited in resources but highly resourceful. Our innovation is just shy of impeccable every time, and this our regular morning routine. Yet, after doing all things, less creating a new galaxy, somehow, someone somewhere still felt justified in offering us three cents on the dollar. Less than half of what our male counterparts are making. Sure we're doing big things and making bigger salaries, but the truth is, even 6+ figure women are still making less than male counterparts with the same or lesser roles, with less experience or similar credentials. We still have to explain the rationale behind our ask. The nerve!! I say this on behalf of all the hard-working women holding it down across the globe. I'm with Mrs. Carter...F U...Pay Me.
When I think of how amazing women are, I can't help but be proud of the women that contributed to my making, and definitely prouder to become one of them. The women that have had my back, taught me to be bold and brave, and truthful. Proud of the women that missed opportunities but still kept pushing so that women like me could continue to carry the torch. Women like my mom, my mentor, and my 8th grade English teacher. My goal is to be one of those women who inspired, supported, and educated others, and kept the ball rolling.
I had fun with this post and hopefully, it hit exactly how it was supposed to. If you haven't heard any of these songs...you definitely need to check them out. Helen will have you in your feels like maybe you can fly or something. And you know what...maybe you can. To give to a head start, go ahead and take flight sis. While your soaring, I'll use my wings to create an updraft for you to help maintain your altitude. We got this.
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